Instead of…. instead of feeling like I’ve shaved off part of me to fit into that hole. You know the hole I’m talking about…. look around you…they are everywhere.
Maybe you’re back to school and you’re trying to find your tribe… your group… your posse to hang with. Maybe your a mom and you’re looking around the gym, the PTA, the neighborhood thinking “where do I fit in?”
The truth is… I find that very rarely do I feel like I just slide my little “peg-self” into that round hole without a ton of squirming and maybe even feeling like I just can’t quite exhale. You know that feeling? When you really, really want to belong but trying to fit in feels about the same as trying to put on a pair of Spanx? You may even lay down on your bed and wiggle into that lycra torture garment …stand in the mirror and look in amazement….only to realize 30 minutes later you have the world’s worst gut ache because you can’t breathe.
That’s what it’s like, when we try and shove ourself into someone’s pre-cut hole for us. Can I speak to you this morning that it doesn’t feel right because it’s not your spot. You see…anytime you feel like you’re a square peg in a round hole, it’s because you are being YOU and sometimes…yes, sometimes…that means you aren’t going to blend in. ESPECIALLY when you step out in your individuality.
But the world needs your square where far too many of us have become round. I don’t mean “can’t fit in our jeans” round… I mean complacent…safe…. vanilla…. It’s discussion for a whole other day and post, but one of the saddest things to me is that we’ve lost our reverence for what makes us unique…and tolerance has equated itself to conformity.
Personally, I’ve even noticed over these last few months as I have made the transition back to writing and speaking that there will be groups where you used fit in that just don’t feel right anymore. Maybe that was your tribe for a season or you aligned with that group or association until you started speaking up…or walking out your calling or even being willing to take a risk and head in a new direction. Somebody hear this …if your peg-hole is feeling a bit awkward as you begin down a new path, it’s okay; sometimes feeling uncomfortable is God’s way of getting you to move on.
Be encouraged if you are feeling like you’re just not fitting in… most pioneers or inventors or creators at some point….feel like that square peg. You were destined for great things so keep being you… it’s perfect! (Besides, everyone else is already taken!)
I’m not sure about you, but as much as I love the way a dress fits when I have those Spanx on, there’s nothing more exhilarating that removing them and being able to fully breathe and be free to be you!
Does this strike a chord with you? Have you noticed that stepping out makes you feel like that square peg? Have you embraced your individuality? I’d love to hear!